We all mess up on a regular basis. And from time to time, we all mess up big. It’s the human condition.
When this happens, the most common reaction is to beat one’s self up. We hit ourselves over the head with shame, decimating any sense of self esteem which in turn, makes us even less capable.
Dang! How could I have been so stupid?! What’s the matter with me?! Where’s a good rock to climb under?! (Does this sound familiar?)
When this pattern persists over time, we tend to pull way back on our participation and life becomes about just getting by. It’s like driving a Ferrari all day at 25 miles per hour. NOT what the vehicle is built for!
And here’s the really big insight. To the extent we have not forgiven ourselves for past blunders, we actually limit the good we receive. On the deepest level, we feel that we don’t deserve the phenomenal wealth God has for us. And we find a thousand ways to sabotage this richness in finances, relationships, health, peace, love and joy.
I recall a time when I forgot to show up for a speaking engagement. Completely spaced it out. The instant I realized what I’d done…that there was a whole room of people waiting for me to walk in the door…and I didn’t even show up…I felt downright nauseous.
I could feel myself going into a tailspin. But thankfully put into practice the LCA Tool of self forgiveness, avoiding the crash and burn. I made the calls to clean up my error, rescheduled the event, and was later able to serve people even more deeply…because of my mistake.
Consider the following. People have ideas of how they want life to go. For the most part, folks want things to be comfortable, even if they aren’t fulfilling.
God, however, has a different agenda. God is committed to our evolution. God is committed to our fulfilment whether or not it’s comfortable.
What does this mean? It means we are brought one lesson after another to teach us how to be better human beings. And we get these lessons whether we want them or not. Does this resonate for you?
So, in the big picture, if you’ve made big mistakes…gone through a divorce…failed in a business…lost a best friend…YOU’RE RIGHT ON COURSE! You are following the cosmic plan!
The goal isn’t a mistake-free life. The goal is to squeeze each mistake for every bit of wisdom you can glean from it. This opens the door for a new pattern of forgiveness doesn’t it?
Go for it > Make mistakes > Forgive > Learn and apply > Evolve > Rinse and repeat
Each mistake, no matter how big, was made from a place of current awareness. In other words, it’s really true that you did the very best you could from a limited level of wisdom. (If you were wiser and more aware, you wouldn’t have made the mistake, right?)
The people making the biggest mistakes in life, are the people who are really going for it. Consider the possibility that we live in a Universe designed to give back to us according to what we put out there. So when our life is about forgiveness, the Universe is for-giving back to us.