I love this quote by John Roger, “It’s crazy not to win in your own fantasy.”
According to Huffington Post, the average human thinks between 60,000 and 70,000 distinct thoughts in a 24-hour time period. (Don’t ask me how they came up with that.)
Since we know that our thinking dramatically influences both our emotions and actions, this becomes a significant force to be dealt with. How do we manage such a beast, especially when so many of those thoughts are self-destructive? A key to this answer lies in the understanding of something called “core issues.”
A core issue is a harsh, destructive judgment against self usually created during childhood at a time of a hurt. Because children are egocentric, they tend to believe any accusations…real or interpreted…especially coming from those local gods called mom and dad.
My brother Bill Ferguson shares a story of a time when he was waiting in line at a department store. In front of him was a little girl and her mom. This little one had just spilled her soft drink when her mom began yelling at her, “Why did you do that? What’s the matter with you?! How could you have been so STUPID?!”
Of course, the child burst into tears. As they left, Bill wondered…how many times would a mother have to say that to a little girl before the child would come to believe she was, in fact, stupid? Once? Twice? Probably not much more than that. And what if the child hears this on a daily basis?
Now the truth is that the little girl just dropped her soft drink. But is it also true that she’s stupid? Or is that judgment that was added on? Obviously it’s the latter…but not to that little girl! To her, she’s obviously stupid and that is a terrible way to be. If anyone sees her stupidity, they won’t want to give her the time of day. So with great hurt, her core issue of stupid is buried deep within her own sense of identity. And even though her core issue is an illusion, she will most likely fight the notion of stupid for the rest of her days.
In adulthood, our core issues remain. How do you know if you have any core issues? You know you have core issues if you ever get upset about anything. This is because whenever you are upset…that upset doesn’t live in the circumstances…it lives in you. You wouldn’t be upset unless there was something inside of you getting upset! Your core issues are those sore spots that keep getting reactivated…over and over again.
Consider the possibility that one of the most important things you can do in your lifetime is to discover and heal your own core issues. The miracle that happens when you achieve this success, is that the very issues that used to drive you crazy, don’t have the power to do that anymore. Then whole patterns of dysfunctionality begin to drop away. How big is that?
How will your healing core issues affect your career, finances, relationships and self-esteem? How will it impact your health and well-being? How will it affect your ability to prosper and receive prosperity?
PLEASE join us the next time when our Intro evening is entitled, “Embracing the Tiger…the Incredible Power of Dismantling Self Judgment.” You will be SOOOO glad you did!